Loving Against the Grain
âYouâre mad, bonkers, completely off your head. But Iâll tell you a secret. All the best people are,â said Lewis Carroll in his famous story, Alice in Wonderland.
A couple of weeks ago, I took a day trip to Ocean City, NJ. Once there, I looked for some new and different things to do and discovered that the town has a âhistorical museumâ of the shoreâs history. Being a lover of history, I walked several miles to the museum to take it all in. The entrance to the museum was free but one was asked to sign in. Upon coming up to sign the visitor booklet, I asked incredulously if indeed the entry was free. The man behind the glass counter said gruffly, âThat depends on what state youâre from.â Taken by surprise, I replied, âIâm from Pennsylvania.â He snorted in disgust, glared at me as though I was a strange kind of beast, and said, âHumph, thatâs a blue state.â I gave no response as to my political affiliation but quietly entered and looked around the little museum, feeling like Iâd just gone through the looking glass and entered into a foreign kind of territory. Had every venue now been divided into âredâ and âblue zonesâ? This categorization certainly gave the concept of a âblue zoneâ a whole different meaning! The surprisingly accusatory encounter stunned me. On vacation, the last thing I was thinking about was politics! For this man, it was nearly the only thing that mattered. It was not only the insistence of one point of view but the act of lumping everyone in the entire state of Pennsylvania into one assumed political category that took me aback, and I realized, how easy it is for us as human beings to draw lines in the sand, keeping some people out and accepting others in, our allegiance and adherence set to our own set of rules, assumptions, or even whims. Even more so, how easy it was to deem some people acceptable and others upside down crazy simply due to their thoughts or affiliations. When and how did we as âsocially interdependent animalsâ become so blatantly un-relational? I thought. Surely there must be more to us as human beings than which political party we might subscribe to. Or have we all gone mad?
Perhaps we have. Certainly, the chaotic soup of our current culture might seem to indicate that something strange is going on. As in the day of Charles Lutwidge Dodgson, otherwise known as Lewis Carroll, we see âhattersâ everywhere. No matter which perspective you take as your view, the âhattersâ of our world seem to be for us the ones who threaten the status quo, build power structures, and defend restrictive systems. Yet, this very âstatus quoâ (along with its structures and systems) will change or be redefined, depending on whom you speak with. Through the looking glass indeed!
This is not the first time our world has been divided. Throughout history, people have divided themselves again and again according to identity or preference. As we talked about last week in our discussion of Schadenfreude, itâs much easier to exclude than to include, much easier to fear than to love. Loving is hard. Thatâs what makes it all the more valuable when we receive it.
But itâs one thing to be unloving and another to âdemonizeâ those who disagree with our own point of view. We seldom demonize those close to us. It can be hard for us to hate those we are in a relationship with. However, those we are not in a relationship with âwell, itâs fairly easy to move them in our minds from people like us, to people like âthem.â The âothers.â From there, itâs even easier to move people from âthemâ or âotherâ to âanti-human,â âthing,â âbad apple,â âhatter,â or even âdemon.â Hereâs the bottom line though. Once you âdemonizeâ someone, you remove their humanity.
Hear that.
Once you demonize someone, you remove their humanity⌠in your eyes, in the eyes of others âand even in the eyes of those you seek to hurt with that categorization.
You know the old saying about sticks and stones. Itâs not entirely true. Words do hurt. They hurt a lot. They can be damaging to you, to those around you, and to those who are the object of your hurt.
And âobjectâ is the key word here. Because when you demonize someone with your words, actions, or implications, you objectify them. And no one (no one here I promise you) wants to be treated as an object. We all want to be treated with the minimal respect due to a child of God.
In our scripture for todayâŚ.Jesus is master of âcrazy loveâ! For those in authority and power around him, heâs become their chief âmad hatter.â Theyâve been tracking him for a while. The more he heals and associates with those the powers that be deem the âdregsâ of society, the more stigmatized he becomes. His crowd of followers is growing, so much so that they follow him home and entrench him wherever he goes. The Pharisees and other authorities begin to fear what this will mean politically. Will he bolster an uprising? Will he feed them antagonistic messages about the power of Rome? The power of the Temple authorities? Their authority? Will the people revolt? How threatening is he?
The Phariseesâ fear is growing. At this point, they will go to any lengths to try to turn people away from following this cray-cray prophet who calls himself the Son of God.
So, they up the proverbial ante. They try to get to Jesus through his own family. Perhaps they can shame his family into silencing their wayward âson.â
They nearly succeed.
This is a truly sad moment in our scripture story, and we need to see this to understand how Jesus must have felt at the moment his own family questioned the veracity of his ministry:
âWhen his family hear it, they went out to restrain him, for people were saying, âHe has gone out of his mind.ââ
The rumor mill had started. The scribes from Jerusalem began âwhispering down the alleyâ that Jesus had gone mad, that he was âBeelzebulâ himself! And the gossip spread quickly, as all âgoodâ gossip goes. When word reached Jesusâ mother and brothers that he had gone off the âdeep end,â embarrassed and dishonored, they tried to ârestrainâ him. The word in Greek is âkrateo.â They felt a need to regain authority over him and take custody of him due to his âmadâ and âoff the cuffâ activities. They tried to âbring him home.â
How humiliating and disheartening that must have been to Jesus to have his own beloved family question his ministry and his identity, after all he had done for them. And yet, they did.
Jesusâ response is one we will never forget: âWho are my mother and my brothers?â He looked at those surrounding him. âHere are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does the will of God is my brother and sister and mother.â With that, Jesus redefined the meaning of family. That rift would persist until the moment of his crucifixion.
We demonize what we do not know or understand. Shifts of power. Non-conformism. Affiliations. The unknown. We fear difference. We fear healing. We fear power. We fear love. Why does Jesus challenge us so much?
Perhaps because he asks us to love without condition. We find it terribly uncomfortable to live let alone love without conditions.
But Jesusâ idea of an âalternative communityâ is about loving against the grain! About overriding divisions, debates, politics, classes, money, illnesses, conditions, assumptions, dictums, and dogmas, and instead embracing the worldâs people as family âall worthy of Godâs love and grace.
Jesus would go on and continue to heal, bless, and love the outcasts, the rejects, and the rankled for the entirety of his ministry. He would go against the grain in every way and form to create a world that put God first and each other second. Where the only âpoliticâ was love and the only family was Godâs. For him, anyone who did the âwill of Godâ was eligible for his ragtag to riches kingdom.
âMad as a hatter?â They thought so. But then, as Lewis Carroll said in the voice of little Alice, âAll the best people are.â
Will you be one of them? âProud to be mad for Jesus!â